Before I Share My Body

As I have been working with young people lately, I have noticed that both genders seem to falter when it comes to what they can or can’t say before, during or after sex. I have attempted to write a few things down that our young people can look at and maybe explore with their partner before engaging in sex.

Please feel free to add your own thoughts about what you would have liked your partner to know before having sex.

What I want you to know before I share my body:

• Before I share my body, I need to know that I am able to have a voice and if I say stop, you will.

• Before I share my body, I need to know that you care about me.

• Before I share my body, I need to know that you will look at me to make sure I am still okay with what is happening.

• Before I share my body, I know that it’s my body and I have ultimate say of what happens.

• Before I share my body, I will know that it’s sacred, important and will make me vulnerable.

• Before I share my body, I want to know that this act is between us and not for all of our friends to know.

• Before I share my body, I want to know I am safe with you.

• Before I share my body, I will be in full control of my mental capacities.